It Took Me a Decade to Say “I’m Not Ashamed” and Mean It
It Took Me a Decade to Say “I’m Not Ashamed” and Mean It
By Faida Niyo
September 18, 2026
For most of my thirties, I slept on one half of the bed, even when there was no one else in it. I kept my whole body folded into that narrow strip against the wall, night after night, like I hadn’t earned the right to take up the rest of the space. I did that for ten years, before I understood I was training myself not to be touched.
Long before I knew I was positive, I [read more]


you.” What I did not receive were honest conversations about consent, healthy relationships,

